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Let’s face it:
• We all know that overeating and sedentarism are the two main habits leading to weight gain.
• We all know that an apple is better for our figure than a burger.
• We are experts in counting calories, grams of fat, grams of carbs, points, etc.
• We know inside out all the popular diets.
• We buy the latest sugar-free shakes and bars, magic teas and lotions, slimming pants and pills.
Then, why is it that:
• the number of overweight people has been dramatically increasing during the past 30 years?
• up to two thirds of the weight is regained within one year after dieting, and almost all the lost weight is regained within five years?
Here is one of the closely-kept secrets that the MULTI, MULTI, MULTI BILLION dollars weight loss industry does not want you to know:
DIETS DO NOT ADDRESS THE REAL CAUSE OF YOUR PROBLEM
and, as a consequence,
DIETS CANNOT HELP YOU MAINTAIN A LONG LASTING WEIGHT LOSS!
Diets require us to rectify our habits (eg: overeating habit, unhealthy eating habit, sedentarism).
Habits are behaviours which have been done so regularly than are eventually being performed without thinking/ without requiring active attention.
Repeated behaviours (eg: overeating habit) are the visible cause of results (eg: weight gain).
All behaviours have a cause on their own:
• innate drives (eg: hunger, thirst) or
• emotions (love, pain, fear, anger, stress)
Emotions are often a result of beliefs.
Beliefs are thoughts accepted as being true (eg: eating is my only way of coping with neglect).
Beliefs are determined by external stimuli, by events (eg: being constantly neglected).
Imagine this:
The events which determined your weight gain are like the seed of a fruit tree. The strong roots of the fruit tree, springing from the seed, are your deeply embedded beliefs about what those events meant to you. The trunk of the tree represents your emotions. The branches of the tree represent your weight gain habits and the fruits are your results. Without roots, there’s no trunk. Without branches, there’s no fruit. Correct?
The seed of weight gain resides in past events:
• Boredom
• Being spoiled with sweets
• Dieting
• Betrayal
• Early maturation
• Loss of loved ones
• Lack of work and relaxation balance
• Abuse
• Neglect
• Rejection
• Anger
The roots of your weight gain are your beliefs created by past events (seeds). Events (eg: being neglected) can lead us to build beliefs about ourselves (eg: unworthy of love), even when the events say nothing about ourselves (eg: neglected by a highly stressed and busy parent who is working hard to provide as much as possible for his child).
The trunk of your weight gain is the emotion (eg: feeling unwanted) that your belief about yourself (eg: unworthy of love) makes you feel (eg: feeling lonely).
Your Weight Gain Feeders
Your beliefs have led you to make certain choices and have certain expectations in life. Choices and expectations confirm and maintain your beliefs. We always settle for what you believe we deserve.
For example, if abuse has led you to believe that you are unworthy of love, this will be reflected by the type of romantic relation you choose. You are more susceptible to accept being neglected or abused, because, as you believe that you are unworthy of love, you have no expectations for a loving relation.
Staying in an abusive relation will maintain your belief, as abuse will make you constantly feel unworthy of love. If you have always found comfort from abuse in eating, this habit will be perpetuated because of this abusive relation you are trapped in.Examples of Weight Gain Feeders:
1. Your past and present choices in life: lousy/ abusive romantic relation, boring job, diets obsession, fear of being yourself, feeling like a victim, self-imposed isolation, shyness, shame of being different, self-hatred, etc.
2. Your future expectations: no hope for having a fulfilling romantic relation, no hope for finding an enjoyable job, no hope for being truly, madly, deeply happy, etc.